Nagging hopelessness is a good way to put it. Those rare glimmers of hope are all I’m going on right now. I always ask myself the same, wondering if I’m expecting too much. But I don’t think I am either. I definitely think it’s time for a new way of thinking, a new chapter per say… & I know you are one of the people I can actually talk to about this stuff & I wouldn’t change you for the world!!
Don't worry Vodka, I feel exactly the same way. It's a difficult feeling to put into words but for me its like a nagging hopelessness. All I can say is that if the people in your life are not there for you like you are for them, then cut them out and focas on meeting new people and treasure your true friends. It is truely difficult to find a real, honest, and unselfish friend but they are out there. I my self am still trying to figure out what I expect from people. Then I ask myself "do I expect too much from people?...from life?". I say NO! I don't. I am fair and good natured as are you and we deserve better. If what we are doing in life isn't working, maybe it is time to change our way of thinking and try something new. You always have an understanding and true friend here.
Well ... at least I can say I'm comforted that I'm not the only one who feels this way. I just turned 24 and the past few months I have done an insane amount of thinking about my life and where I want it to go. I know what I want and I'm stubborn and won't accept anything else. I definitely get the whole "being single" thing - I've been single for over 2 years, and it's been truly a great learning experience. I firmly believe you have to know who YOU are to even connect with others. But then again, it does get a bit lonely at times. I have definitely put myself "out there" in the past year or so and I've accomplished so much and for that I am truly grateful. But sometimes I think about how it would be great to have someone to share the successes with. I've also had the same best friends since I was young, for the most part. I am lucky to have met a few people in recent years who can relate to the "adult" me more than my childhood friends. I also have TONS of friends who are just ... kind of there. No real connection. Just small talk!
On February 3, 2010 09:50:32 AM - rawkstar76 said:
I've been in your situation before and have come back to it recently. I've been alive for 33 years and it's only been in the last two years that I've begun to figure out who I am. I no longer keep in touch with some friends that I was once close to because there just isn't any substance there anymore when we speak. I've opened my mind to new ideas; opportunities I wouldn't have taken in the past. Because of this, I also have remained single because I just can't seem to make a connection. I'm looking to live on a higher plain and the women I encounter just don't do it for me like they did in the past. I've been through hell and back so I know what it is that I want and need. A few women have come close, but then it just fizzles for whatever reason. So, I have my closest friends, 2 of which I've known since kindergarten, and my best friend, who I've known since were 12. I have one friend that's a woman that in another universe, we'd make be together, but in this one, we're like brother and sister. I'm hoping someday soon I can meet a woman and really be open up without persecution and vice versa. Until then, I sleep to dream.
On February 3, 2010 09:26:00 AM - Jenn Ramirez said:
True friendships are hard to find indeed. For me, I had been hurt by so many "friends" in the past, I had given up altogether. I had found a comfort in the shallow and superficial friendships bc I knew I never had to be too vulnerable. Easy convos and go.
But I find that ppl are worth taking the time to get to know. I started opening up a little more and more and I find myself with more than just hey "Hey, I totally hit that last night."
If I hadn't given my friend Steph the time and didn't allow myself to trust her, I wouldn't be able to call her my Best Friend today.
You're right. I am also fascinated by that. Just as you are going on with your every day life and routine, something could happen or you could meet someone that changes your ENTIRE life. I like the thought of that, I guess. It gives me hope. Also reminds me of a quote I read a few weeks ago, but I've tried unsuccessfully to find it in my zillion facebook statuses. I'll post it if I do.
On February 3, 2010 08:42:24 AM - tendraftsdeep said:
A long time ago I posted a blog here where I mentioned my fascination with the fact that one choice can lead to a whole new existence.....a different route to work, a break from the usual routine, visiting a new place, all of these things could lead to the introduction of new people and completely alter the future. Its like when you passed by that person in the mall last week or a couple years ago. Maybe you made eye contact....but what if you had said hello? Our whole futures ride on the next blink of an eye.
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Well.... I'm glad someone has the answers!
If only you could feel what I am experiencing in my life, it answers all of those questions above.
Nagging hopelessness is a good way to put it. Those rare glimmers of hope are all I’m going on right now. I always ask myself the same, wondering if I’m expecting too much. But I don’t think I am either. I definitely think it’s time for a new way of thinking, a new chapter per say… & I know you are one of the people I can actually talk to about this stuff & I wouldn’t change you for the world!!
Don't worry Vodka, I feel exactly the same way. It's a difficult feeling to put into words but for me its like a nagging hopelessness. All I can say is that if the people in your life are not there for you like you are for them, then cut them out and focas on meeting new people and treasure your true friends. It is truely difficult to find a real, honest, and unselfish friend but they are out there. I my self am still trying to figure out what I expect from people. Then I ask myself "do I expect too much from people?...from life?". I say NO! I don't. I am fair and good natured as are you and we deserve better. If what we are doing in life isn't working, maybe it is time to change our way of thinking and try something new. You always have an understanding and true friend here.
Well ... at least I can say I'm comforted that I'm not the only one who feels this way. I just turned 24 and the past few months I have done an insane amount of thinking about my life and where I want it to go. I know what I want and I'm stubborn and won't accept anything else. I definitely get the whole "being single" thing - I've been single for over 2 years, and it's been truly a great learning experience. I firmly believe you have to know who YOU are to even connect with others. But then again, it does get a bit lonely at times. I have definitely put myself "out there" in the past year or so and I've accomplished so much and for that I am truly grateful. But sometimes I think about how it would be great to have someone to share the successes with. I've also had the same best friends since I was young, for the most part. I am lucky to have met a few people in recent years who can relate to the "adult" me more than my childhood friends. I also have TONS of friends who are just ... kind of there. No real connection. Just small talk!
I've been in your situation before and have come back to it recently. I've been alive for 33 years and it's only been in the last two years that I've begun to figure out who I am. I no longer keep in touch with some friends that I was once close to because there just isn't any substance there anymore when we speak. I've opened my mind to new ideas; opportunities I wouldn't have taken in the past. Because of this, I also have remained single because I just can't seem to make a connection. I'm looking to live on a higher plain and the women I encounter just don't do it for me like they did in the past. I've been through hell and back so I know what it is that I want and need. A few women have come close, but then it just fizzles for whatever reason. So, I have my closest friends, 2 of which I've known since kindergarten, and my best friend, who I've known since were 12. I have one friend that's a woman that in another universe, we'd make be together, but in this one, we're like brother and sister. I'm hoping someday soon I can meet a woman and really be open up without persecution and vice versa. Until then, I sleep to dream.
True friendships are hard to find indeed. For me, I had been hurt by so many "friends" in the past, I had given up altogether. I had found a comfort in the shallow and superficial friendships bc I knew I never had to be too vulnerable. Easy convos and go.
But I find that ppl are worth taking the time to get to know. I started opening up a little more and more and I find myself with more than just hey "Hey, I totally hit that last night."
If I hadn't given my friend Steph the time and didn't allow myself to trust her, I wouldn't be able to call her my Best Friend today.
You're right. I am also fascinated by that. Just as you are going on with your every day life and routine, something could happen or you could meet someone that changes your ENTIRE life. I like the thought of that, I guess. It gives me hope. Also reminds me of a quote I read a few weeks ago, but I've tried unsuccessfully to find it in my zillion facebook statuses. I'll post it if I do.
& Thanks about my screename, ha :)
A long time ago I posted a blog here where I mentioned my fascination with the fact that one choice can lead to a whole new existence.....a different route to work, a break from the usual routine, visiting a new place, all of these things could lead to the introduction of new people and completely alter the future. Its like when you passed by that person in the mall last week or a couple years ago. Maybe you made eye contact....but what if you had said hello? Our whole futures ride on the next blink of an eye.
nice screen name by the way.
i've always felt that way, life's good and all, but just having a really close person would make my day any day